Why Am I Still Single? – The Top 5 Reasons Why You Are Single

why am i singleI can’t even count how many times I have heard a woman ask, “Why am I still single?” Even if you have tons of self-confidence, this question can still play with your head and make you wonder why at your age haven’t you been able to find the right guy and settle down with him.

If you really want to know the truth about why you are single, then you can’t play the victim in the whole scenario, but actually look at yourself to see what may be the problem. There may be on main reason why you are single or you may have a combination of reasons contributing to the fact that you don’t have a man in your life.

Stop asking yourself this question and instead check out the top 5 reasons why women are still single and see if they pertain to you.

1. You Are Depending Too Much on a Guy for Your Happiness

This happens to a lot of women in that they look towards a relationship with a guy to give them happiness in their life. But even if you find a great guy there are going to be difficult times in your relationship and times that this guy may do things that you don’t like or don’t make you happy.

If you depend too much on a man to make you happy then you aren’t going to be happy for long. You need to make sure that you find happiness from yourself first and then pursue a relationship. You can’t depend on anyone else to really make you happy all the time as it just puts too much stress on a relationship and you end up being really unhappy.

2. You Are Too Much of a Control Freak

Look back at your past relationships and see if any exes of yours have told you have control issues. Do you tend to jump into relationships quickly and then want to control everything? Are you the type of woman who wants to control everything their man does from what kind of clothes he wears to who he is able to go out with?

Neither men nor women like to date a control freak as it just tends to drive them away further in the end. If you have control issues in your relationship then you need to work on this so it doesn’t keep happening.

3. You Are Looking In the Wrong Places for a Guy

If you take a poll of the women you know who are married or in serious relationships I’m guessing that the most of these women didn’t meet their men in a bar of club. If you are going out on the weekends to clubs and bars with the intent of finding Mr. Right you just be setting yourself up for failure.

The thing is most women meet men when they really aren’t trying or through mutual friends or on online dating sites. Try to put yourself in the situation where you can meet a guy who has the same interests. For example if you love sports, attend local sporting events or join a co-ed softball or volleyball team.

If you are looking for a one night stand or being a booty call for a guy then head out to the clubs or bars.

4. You are Too Picky or Have Too High of Expectations

It could be that you watched one too many chick flicks or read too many romance novels and now you have too high of expectations for how a relationship is supposed to be or how a guy is supposed to act. If you have a long list of must-haves for a guy or you expect your relationship to be perfect all of the time then this could very well be the reason why you are still single.

I’m not going to tell you to lower your standards or date any old guy that you meet, but you may have to compromise on some issues. Try to figure out what items are really must haves in guys and what ones you can live without. If you don’t, you may just be single for a very long time.

5. You Actually Like Being Single

You may think you really want to have a significant other, but actually you may enjoy the single life more than you think. Certain situations may make you feel like you need a man, such as trying to find a date to a wedding or hearing about your friends getting married, but in reality you may not really want to have a serious relationship yet.

You may be comfortable with being single and not want to change right now because we all know when you go from being single to a relationship certain things change. For example, maybe you like being able to do what you want when you want without having to answer to anyone and you know that if you got a boyfriend that would have to change.

These are just the top 5 reasons why you may still be single as there are plenty of other ones that may relate to you as well. The best thing you can do is to really analyze your past relationships and even your friendships to see what you can learn about yourself.

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