What To Do When He Doesn’t Want a Relationship

You meet an awesome guy and you two really hit it off but then he tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship. This happens all too often to women and it can be such a confusing situation.

There has to be some sort of reason for him not wanting a relationship with you. The reasons could range from him simply not being interested in you to him still trying to get over an ex. Then there are the guys are players or aren’t ready for a real relationship yet in their lives and rather remain single to concentrate on other areas of their lives first.

If you recently found out the guy you are interested in doesn’t want a relationship with you, then here are some things you can do depending on your specific situation.

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If You Slept With Already Him You May Never Be More Than a Booty Call

If you slept with him before you had a real relationship established then there is a pretty good chance that you may never be taken seriously or be more than just a booty call for him.

He may have been interested in you at first, but now that he has “conquered” you so easily he may be uninterested in actually having a relationship with you.

If you are okay with just being friends with benefits or his late night calls when he doesn’t find another woman, then by all means go with it.

But if you aren’t okay with this situation then you need to tell him and stop being at his beckon call. Two things could happen here. One, he could realize that you do mean more than just sex to him and he could start wanting to date you or two, he moves on to the next woman and he was never worth it in the first place.

If he does move on, then take this as a lesson learned with the next guy you meet.

There Is Someone Else He Wants

If the guy is still pining away for his ex or he is interested in another woman, there really is nothing you can do to change his mind about having a relationship with you.

It is best to move on as you don’t want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t fully love you anyways. You deserve a man’s full hear and attention.

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Things Moved Too Fast for Him

This is actually a very popular reason for men to pull away from women and commitments to them. If he feels like things are moving way too fast he may just back off all together.

Sometimes women have the habit of moving too fast with men as they want the boyfriend to commit and have the relationship they have always dreamed of. But this can easily scare away a man when you start talking about the future with him, moving stuff into his place, constantly calling or texting or just all together smothering him.

You may have done these things unintentionally because you really do like him and if that is the case then you may be able to save this potential relationship.

Even though it may seem odd, but you need to give him his space right now. Go out and do things with your friends. Make sure you let him know that you have a life outside of him and let him live his life as well.

If you two are meant to be together then things will work out as he will see things slowing down and may realize that he misses you or that he can still have his normal life and a relationship with you.

He’s Just Not Interested In You

There are times that a guy will tell you he doesn’t want a relationship because he just isn’t feeling the vibe between the two of you.

If a guy just isn’t into you, then there really isn’t much hope for a relationship. You can’t force a man to be your boyfriend.

If you really, really like him, then you can still remain friends and try to show him how much you have in common and what a great gal you are but be sure you don’t come on to strong. In some time, he may fall for you, or you may just gain a good guy friend or have some fun hanging out with a guy for a short period of time. This is your decision in whether you still want to hang out with him even though you know he is not interested in you.

He’s Not Sure What He Wants

If you have been in the dating word for even a short period of time you most likely know that men can be hot and cold and can easily be confused on what they want.

There may be a part of him that wants to remain single to party with the guys or leave it open to other women he can pick up but then there may be a part of him who likes you and wants to see where a relationship can go with you. Basically, he doesn’t know want he really wants right now.

If this sounds like your man, then you need to talk to him to tell him that you understand he doesn’t want a relationship right now and let him know that you may be upset but there are no hard feelings.

Then, simply walk away. Let him have his space and don’t go texting him or calling him right away. Instead let him wonder what he may be missing by letting you go. Give him the space he wants to decide what he really wants when it comes to his life right now.

Don’t play games with his head though. If he calls you or texts you, then respond back (if you want to have a relationship with him). This lets him know that you are still open to being his girlfriend but that you aren’t simply waiting around just for him.

If a guy tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship it’s not the end of the world. Although it can be very stressful and heartbreaking there are other guys out there who are willing to commit. And depending on your situation there may be some simple things you can do to convince your man that you are the woman for him.

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