If you really think about it, there are two basic things you can do.
1. Tell your boyfriend that you are breaking up with him because you want to get married someday.
2. Stick it out with your boyfriend and secretly hope that he will change his mind in the future or that you will get used to the fact you won’t be walking down the aisle.
I’m going to further examine these points to help you get an idea of what you should do if your boyfriend doesn’t want to marry you.
Break Up With Your Boyfriend If He Doesn’t Want to Marry You
If you really are set that you want to get married, then breaking up with your boyfriend may be the only real option that you have.
When most men tell you that they don’t want to get married, they usually mean it and don’t often change their minds.
You may love your man and want to spend the rest of your life with him, but if being married and having a family is more important than you may just need to find a new man that wants to get married and wants the same thing in life as you do.
Although you shouldn’t play games with your relationship, there are some times when you tell a man that you are breaking up with him because you want to get married and he doesn’t and he ends up realizing that he doesn’t want to lose you. This doesn’t happen all the time but if your man really loves you and does want to be with you for the long term then you giving him his space and letting him know that you are willing to end it because you want that marriage, it can actually change his mind about marrying you.
The thing to remember is that, you can’t play games and simply tell him you are breaking up with him and then continue to call him or continue to be intimate with him. If you break up with him you have to stop calling, stop seeing him and basically stop all contact unless he initiates it because you doesn’t want to lose you.
Stay with Your Boyfriend and See What Happens When It Comes to Marriage
The other option you have is to stay with your guy and either hope that he changes his mind about marriage or you decide that you can live without being married.
As I mentioned most of the time when a man says he doesn’t want to get married (especially older men who are set in life and it’s not just because they are young and immature and not ready to get married), he means it and isn’t going to change. There are simply some men for whatever reason, they don’t want to ever get married and no woman will ever change that.
I have heard of some situations where a man will change his mind but usually this is the case with younger men and men who don’t live with their girlfriend.
If you are already living with your boyfriend and playing house and he tells you he doesn’t want to get married, I would say there is a 99% chance that you won’t ever marry him.
Some women do decide that they will simply drop their dreams of getting married and stay with their boyfriend and just continue to have a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. This may work for you and you may change your mind about getting married and be happy simply being with your man and you don’t need a marriage license anymore.
No one can make these decisions for you. You need to really look at your relationship and decide what you want to do.
Are marriage and a family really that important to you that you would be willing to let your current man go to find someone else who can make you completely happy?
Or maybe you can compromise and wait to see if your boyfriend ever changes his mind and wants to marry you some day or even if you become happy just being a girlfriend for the years to come.
This is definitely not an easy decision to make, but this is your life and you can control what happens.